Saturday, August 17, 2013

Positive People

Positive People get Positive Results


Ever meet people that the first time you meet them just WOW you? 


I have.  They walk into a room, and everyone that meets them wants to "latch on"  to the power and energy that this person exudes, wanting to shake that person's hand in the hope that some of whatever it is that has blessed this individual will somehow be transferred to them during the handshake.


I know a person just like this...his name is Jack.  From the very first time I met Jack, his smile and demeanor were infectious.  I was very impressed, because I could tell is was not an act---it was genuine! 


Needless to say, several years later, Jack had gone from being a manager for a regional company to starting an incredibly successful business with multiple locations that ranks amongst the top in his industry in California.


I was not surprised.  Who would not want to have the opportunity to do business with a person like Jack?  He is sincere, friendly, has integrity, is extremely likeable and as honest as they come.  He is not afraid of hard work, is extremely smart and he gives back to his community, those less fortunate and his church unselfishly.


Jack understands and embraces the universal truism: You Give --- You Get!




Jack possesses excellent business acumen; he understands the bottom line, does not shy away from tough decisions and he knows the importance of consistently taking excellent care of his customers and his employees.  And by all accounts, he does all of the above quite well!


Why am I sharing this with you?

Because, my friends, there is a bit of Jack in each of us!  We just need to recognize our unique gifts, and use them to make a difference in our life and the lives of others.  That's what being positive and believing in yourself and your unique contribution is all about! 


You can't fake happiness, passion, integrity, sincerity or empathy...people see right through it.  That is why the persona of people like Jack is so powerful, like electricity...we just don't know many "Jacks" because they are truly a rare breed, so they stand out and therefore they are memorable to us.



Regardless of your background, education, age or sex, it's up to each of us to figure out how we can contribute to the service and needs of others, and to give them what they want  with a smile, passion and integrity.




Commit to searching internally for what it is you can offer up to the world regarding talents and strengths, then commit to a plan to set into motion your chosen destiny.



Commit to being the optimist, with passion, energy, and an unfaltering desire to succeed... and above all, commit to believing in yourself and your dreams. 




Your reward will be not only be true happiness because of what you have become and accomplished,  but prosperity as well!

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Healing the Past

"We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present." ~Marianne Williamson




Tragedy.....from the 14th century Greeks-- to Shakespeare -- to  the present, countless books, plays and movies have used it to tell a tragic story, perhaps in the hope the audience can understand and learn from it. 


Unfortunately tragedies happen in real life, and we have all had our share if we have been on this earth long enough.





Many people carry some baggage from countless possible scenarios that  may have happened to us in our life...a ruined relationship, a death of a loved one, an abusive parent or partner, a traumatic experience such as an accident, a friendship betrayed...whatever it is, it is very hard sometimes to address the feelings and emotions that emanate internally from the experience.


I'll be the first to admit that sometimes is very hard to shake off whatever in our life caused the pain or trauma, and move on without our thoughts, actions or reactions chiming in on a regular basis in our present days over the experience. 



Reliving it over and over and over again......


Allowing it to steal our present, and future life moments. 

Allowing it to be a roadblock for peace and happiness in our life.

Allowing it to prevent us from seizing present and future opportunities. 



How do we deal with the issue of our past tragedies and trauma? 


We let go, that's how!


Difficult?          Yes


Necessary?        Definitely


The past can't hurt you anymore, not unless you let it.”

Alan Moore, V for Vendetta


A few months ago I wrote a blog article  on forgiveness, and in that blog, I suggested that  one must truly forgive (but not forget) in order to release the internal anger and hurt that affects their present state of mind. 




The same applies here....we need to rid ourselves of all internal anger,  hurt,  mistrust,  grief, sadness and depressing thoughts...... and commit to living in the Present, because the Present will dictate our Future.  


Remember this---living in the past is a curse!  Once the past has been truly let go, expect to  feel better mentally and physically...... and I assure you --you will be much happier living in the present!


"Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world awaits.”

Sarah Breathnach










Sunday, August 4, 2013

How will your "Personal Novel" play out?

Let me ask you something.


If you could go back to determinate points in your life,  points defined by a decision you made, what would you do differently knowing now what you didn't know then?


Personally, I can think of many things I would do differently if given the chance. But the reality is none of us can go back to change whatever circumstances  brought us to this point in our life....we simply have the present and the future as to how our "Personal Novel"  plays out from here.




 “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
Eleanor Roosevelt


What will you do to fill the remaining pages of your Personal Novel until the epilogue?


Who will you do it with?


What decisions will you make from this moment forward that impact your health, your career, your financial security, your family and friends and your life experiences?


Where will you travel?


“The future depends on what you do today.”
Mahatma Gandhi



You are the author of your own personal novel --no one else.


Day by day, chapter by chapter, your life will play out and your novel will be written.  Will it be filled with mundane and meaningless pages, our will it be filled with excitement, adventure, romance, love, travel and great memories?


It's up to you.


You control the chapters, and ultimately, the conclusion. 



Thursday, August 1, 2013

External Solutions and Addiction

Before you can break out of prison, you must realize you are locked up.”  — Author Unknown


We all seek out happiness and harmony in our life.

Yet sometimes there is a void that we seek to fill.... something appears to be missing. 

 Instead of attempting to understand or comprehend  why we feel the way we do..... and look for answers and solutions within ourselves, some of us attempt to fill our voids in other ways.

External Ways.

"External Solutions" are those things we desire and latch on to because we believe we need them to make us feel better about ourselves and our life.   We believe that the activity or the material item will make us happier and fill the void we have.

Some people seek out activities that are gratifying,  invigorating, exciting and even dangerous in order to fill their void -- drugs,  alcohol, gambling, shopping, eating  and smoking are a few examples ........

Things that, for the moment, serve to bring us to a happier place and make us forget and feel better about our self.  Don't get me wrong--we all indulge in things we like on occasion, but a good rule of thumb is every thing in moderation, right?

Everything from food, alcohol, shopping, drugs,  sex, gambling,  cigarettes and other "not so healthy" activities are all examples of External Solutions that, if allowed to spiral out of control,  can harm us, both physically and mentally.

Consumer marketing feeds off of our perceived need for External Solutions.  The nicer car, the bigger house, the newest gadget are all External Solutions that we believe will make us happier (and it may work for a while) but the reality is that happiness is simply an internal state of mind. 


Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.  Norman Vincent Peale



Bad habits or addictions over time can affect the way we look, our finances, our relationships and our professional life.  Some people are able to deal with External Solution issues themselves, while others may need assistance to kick their bad habits or addiction. 


Either way, if you have a bad habit or an addiction, step one is to recognize that you have it---step two is to devise a plan to address it.  


Never forget ----true happiness comes from within ----and YOU are in control  of the vehicle!


We are who we are because of three things,

the choices we make,

the habits we keep and

the disciplines we have.   

Ricardo Housham