In life, bad and rotten things happen to all of us (or by extension, our family or friends) at one time or another, and we may to this very day harbor bad thoughts or feelings for others that may have harmed us or those we love.
It could be one of a million things - a loan not repaid, a trust betrayed, a theft, a lie, a physical fight, feelings that were damaged -- or worse. As a natural response, we hold a grudge for the perpetrators, vowing never to forgive them for what they did. We are angry, sad, and want justice or retribution!
All of these ill feelings remain in our conscious and subconscious minds, weighing us down with anger and unhappiness....I think you will agree it is not a good place to be.
I am suggesting that we simply clear out those angry and unhappy thoughts ....let them go.... remove them.... but not lose the lesson learned from them. Forgiving does not mean forgetting; there is a clear difference, and we should all learn from every circumstance- good and bad - in our lives and apply our knowledge accordingly.
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.”― Thomas Stephen Szasz
There are real life consequences for having to carry a bagful of memories that weigh down on our our happiness, and our health....the burden of not being able to forgive makes one cautious, withdrawn and unhappy...as I stated above, it's a sad place to be. It can have an impact on relationships, work, family and a host of other things....Instead, commit to releasing the burden and the weight of those bad/sad/damaging thoughts; clear your mind, clear your heart by forgiving those things in the past that damaged you.
“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are.”― Cherie Carter-Scott
Maybe there are some things have happened in your life that are just, in your mind, unforgivable. Just not worth giving up the burden that you must carry on a daily basis because the situation is just too grave. If that is the case, remember this -- none of us can change the past. We can however, shape today and our future starting right now by forgiving those people, really forgiving them in our heart, releasing the burden, lifting the weight and clearing our minds and bodies of the past ---clear your list today for a better tomorrow!
P.S. Don't forget to forgive yourself for all of the above reasons!!